I’m Asian. Do you know what would really suck? If someone came up to me and said, “Yeah, I think being Asian will cause you to go to hell and that you’re committing a sin that will send your soul to eternal damnation. But, I still like you as a person though!”
Good thing that’s never happened to me.
Oh wait. It has. Sort of.
I like to think that I know the intent of the phrase “hate the sin, love the sinner.” It’s saying that people should forgive those who eat in excess or those who commit other sins that can be reformed – we have the right to be angry with the actions they’re taking, but we should still love the people and help them prosper and progress. Yes, you should hate the sick things sex addicts do, but should still love the sex addict as an individual and attempt to get him aid.
However, when it comes to homosexuality, this is a phrase that is often used by conservatives/religious people to try to mitigate the harshness of their hate. But when it comes to being gay, here’s the thing: homosexuality is not temporary. You can make it illegal, you can put a shotgun to a gay person’s head, you can try to shock the gay out straight out of them. None of that will work, because it’s something that cannot be changed. It’s an inherent part of an individual.
There’s a lot of effort being spent by those support and by those who oppose homosexuality on deciding whether people are born gay or whether it’s an acquired trait. From the AP Psychology course I’ve taken and from the research I’ve done in my free time, I lean on the side that we are born this way. No matter what, though, what’s wrong with loving someone? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. I could go on and on about this, but essentially, you can’t pick and choose your sins. People’s religious beliefs should be tolerated, but not forced onto those who disagree with them.
I suppose what bothers me the most about this phrase is that it’s impossible to hate an inherent aspect of someone and still fully love them. Yes, being gay is just a part of me, albeit an important part. But just like being black is only a part of a person, how can you fully love someone for who they are if you hate such a central aspect of them? How can you love people, respect them as you would anyone else, if you dislike and detest a part of them that will never go away?
People use the phrase “hate the sin, love the sinner” as a cop out. It’s as if they believe “oh, if I say that I just hate the sin, but I love the sinner, I’m still a good person.” That’s not enough. In the end, love is love. And if you hate something centered on love, something that has no adverse effects on anyone, you’re hating love in general.
I hope you all are doing well, and as always I want to read your thoughts! As usual I’m doing homework, participating in school-related activities, finishing college apps, maybe trying to find a job soon? Until next time!