Sometimes I think the media makes us stupid.
Can someone give me a logical definition of the “traditional family”? Or “traditional family values”? When politicians and people in general use this phrase, are they referring to the average middle-class Caucasian family of the fifties? Are they referring to the outdated and preconceived motion that men are the head of the household? I wonder if there even is a traditional family. What cultural biases and predispositions form the mold of what should be seen as “traditional”, and should the traditional family even be considered a quality representation of America today?
Let me give you my thoughts on what a traditional family should be like. Traditional families should love one another unconditionally. The members of a traditional family should never hurt one another with malice, and they should always trust each other and cooperate. They should possess solid communication skills, and an unwritten message of “we will support you, no matter what.”
Child abuse. Domestic violence. I’m 100% sure that those things are damaging traditional families, no matter how you interpret the phrase. Statistics, statistics, statistics. Families are torn apart, and tear each other apart, by hurting one another. Husbands beating wives. Wives beating children. Children seeing dad beat mom and modeling that behavior in the future, perpetuating the cycle of abuse. Dad screaming curse words at mom. Mom crying. Dad screaming curse words at child. Child crying. Child developing with self-esteem issues. Child suffering from psychological illness later in life.
Divorce. I’m pretty sure the traditional family doesn’t involve a mother and father, or a mother and a mother, or a father and a father living apart from one another, not speaking, and failing to cooperate. Statistics, statistics, statistics. Sure, some divorces are warranted. But I wonder how many divorces are caused by a lack of proper communication. Perhaps divorce counseling would help? After all, those statistics certainly show that divorce leads to a higher rate of emotional damage in the children who witness it.
Teen pregnancy. I’m not saying that teenagers are incapable of caring for their children, because that’s not true. However, I’m sure that most would be better off having kids when they are financially stable and able to focus a large portion of their attention to their children, instead of searching for a stable job. Statistics, statistics, statistics. I know some teens who feel pressured to have sex while they’re still young because they feel that that is society’s expectation – just, no. Don’t let the media beguile you and make you make bad decisions. Research.
Now, what I find really funny/frustrating to the point of humor is when people say that when a man and a man marry each other, they are going against traditional family values. Is that a serious statement? Find me a statistic about how gay marriage causes psychological illness, or economically unstable families, or death. Find me a statistic, or some remotely logical argument about why we should be wasting our time debating the right for people to love each other instead of these myriad issues that are actually harming families in the United States of America.
This is my attempt to rationalize the frustration I feel when I see people holding signs that say “fags go to hell.” Do child abusers not go to hell? Why don’t they deserve signs? Why aren’t people eating at restaurants that explicitly state that they are against child abuse? This is my attempt to explain the anger I feel when people campaign to force apart families who could lovingly raise children, who have no communication issues, who are perfectly fine and in no danger of getting divorced.
This is my attempt to express the influx of emotions I experience when I witness a teenager succumb to some pitiful pathos a politician or ignorant person throws out against gay marriage instead of logically thinking things through.
I’d love to hear other people’s opinions about this. Am I the only one who feels this way? I usually don’t publicize my posts on Facebook, but I am with this one – maybe someone from there could offer an argument that will make sense to me. Or some form of mutual understanding.